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Your brain has been trained to think that this is what love is but it’s just familiarity because of past traumas. If you’re in a relationship filled with push and pull and a rollercoaster of anxiety, passion, disappointment, and joy, that’s not real love. Express your needs from the start so there is no disappointment later on.

Be honest with what you want in a relationship both with your partner and with yourself.

Relationships containing these two types can still flourish and grow with good communication. Even though Avoidant types and Anxious types often attract, it doesn’t mean they are doomed.

No matter what attachment style you fall under, open, honest, and effective communication will ALWAYS be the saving grace of your relationship.

They don’t irrationally fear abandonment and do not depend on the responsiveness or approval of their partners to have a positive view on themselves. Secure attachment types thrive in their relationships but also love being on their own.

They can depend on their partner and in turn, let their partners rely on them. In contrast to the previous two (which we can categorize as “insecure” attachment styles), secure adults often feel comfortable expressing emotions openly and believe that they deserve love so they never worry about their partners being unavailable or unresponsive. This can cause worry and doubt that their partner isn’t as invested in the relationship as they are. They seek approval, support, and responsiveness from their partners. Those with this attachment style can often have a negative self-image and look to others to fill their void. They tend to avoid emotional closeness and are afraid of deep connections and commitment.Īdults with this attachment style tend to also hide or suppress their feelings in emotionally-dense situations and in their relationships.Īnxious adults, think of their partners as their “better half” and can’t imagine living without their partner.

They do not want to depend on others or have others depend on them.

Those who fall under the avoidant attachment style tend to perceive themselves as “lone wolves”, strong, independent, and self-sufficient (almost to a fault). If you haven’t heard about attachment styles before, here’s what they are: The 3 Attachment Styles This was the first time I was learning about attachment styles and I honestly am amazed I never heard of them before. This is one of the first books I’ve read about relationships that made me jaw-drop at how accurately it described some of my past relationships.